

Plenty of people experienced “downward mobility” during the Pandemic. Annabelle Gurwitch encounters a divorce after 22 years of marriage, the loss of her health insurance, the death of her parents, and dealing with her trans college child who’s in rehab for a drug problem.
Anyone coping with financial insecurity, renting to dubious tenants, and trying to get back into the dating scene will relate to Gurwitch’s situation.
My favorite chapter in You’re Leaving When? is “Lubepocalypse Now!” Gurwitch is pressured by her friends and her sister to get back into the dating game. But first, she has to overcome a number of issues.
The first issue is Gurwitch’s sleep “requirements”: “I must have a firm wedge between my knees, a smoosh cushion to lean into, a sturdy bolster supporting my spine, and a sloped Temper-Pedic travel pillow angled under my neck. Also, I prefer to be cocooned in a heavy down comforter or two. I am partial to sleeping in socks, a knitted hat, a scarf (if the room is drafty), and a night guard to prevent TMJ clenching.” (p. 132). I hesitate to speak for men in general, but I’m guessing most guys would not find this sexy. And, most guys would probably categorize Gurwitch as “high maintenance.”
Despite all the problems confronting her, I admire Annabelle Gurwitch’s resilience and tenacity. Her dreams of “coasting” into retirement blow up and her life is turned upside down. Yet, time after time, Gurwitch finds ways to overcome disasters with grit and adaptability. Her story is inspiring. GRADE: B+
Table of Contents:
Introduction: I Thought There’d Be Coasting 3
Homeward Bound 13
Stuffed 21
Silver Nesting 33
Red Flags 41
The _____ That Changes Everything 57
If You Lived with Me You’d Be Home by Now 73
Spirited Away 95
They Got the Alias That We’ve Been Living Under 111
Lubepocalypse Now! 129
Dear Girlfriends 149
You’re Doing All the Right Things, Everything Is Going to Work Out 157
Free to Be … They and Them 173
You’re Leaving When? 183
In a Muted Zoom No One Can Hear You Scream 199
Acknowledgments 211









